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3 Tips (and 1 Bonus Tip) to Enhance your Daughter’s Personal Safety on Campus

Although we like to think of our daughter’s years away at college as safe and idealistic, the reality is that her time at school puts her at risk.

RAINN, (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network) the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization, reports that close to 1 in 6 college-aged women received assistance from a victim services agency.  They also report that a female college student is twice as likely to be sexually assaulted as robbed.  Please also bear in mind that 4 out of 5 students who were sexually assaulted do not report.

Enhancing your daughter’s campus safety, security, and survival is crucial.  The best way to do this is to educate and empower her with strategies (or “hacks”) she can use every day.

Although there is no 100% guaranteed blueprint for keeping our daughters safe, there are many empowering, yet simple, precautions we can teach them.

Of course, the cardinal rule is to always use the Buddy System.  They learned it in kindergarten, and it’s a classic for a reason.  You don’t stop using the Buddy System just because you turn 18 – in fact, it’s more important than ever, because the stakes become higher as our daughters leave the protection of parents and home.

These are 3 simple – but highly effective – strategies to enhance your daughter’s personal safety both on and off campus:

1. Headphones Are Off; Earbuds Are Put Away.

That means even if I can’t see you, I WILL HEAR YOU.  No exceptions when in public. Some argue that wearing headphones is a useful social signal that indicates they don’t want to talk.  A predator just sees an easier target.  We need the full range of all our senses at all times. Hearing is the most effective alert to when we’re being approached from behind.  Police remind us that 90% of surprise attacks are launched from closer than 15 feet behind an unaware person.

2. BYOB. (Beverage)

Bring your own beverage and pay attention to it.  Ideally, this will be in a reusable bottle with an attached lid.  This dramatically cuts down on opportunities for someone to tamper with or switch the drink.  Remember, most often it is someone with whom your daughter is acquainted,  or may even know well, who will attempt to spike her drink. Even ice could contain a predatory drug, such as GHB, which is odorless, colorless, and tasteless.  Have her bring her own bottle everywhere and protect it, all the time, just as she would her wallet.

3. Lock It Up, Lock It Down.

On university campuses, as in life, complacency sets in and people get lax about locking doors and windows.  This can be especially problematic in dormitories.  One person propping open a back door – even innocently, as a favor to a roommate, for example – puts everyone at risk. Unlocked windows are often an overlooked security risk, especially on the ground floor. If your daughter will be sharing off-campus housing, install a lock on her bedroom door.

While the risks of college life are real, don’t let fear drive your daughter’s university experience.  Instead, educate her with these and other tips for personal safety and security, and empower her for life.

— Jennifer Kaminer, 28 Feb 2017

Related: The Clery Act and why you need to know.

Related:  Personal Safety Webinar for young Women in College

Stalking: Resource from John Carroll University 

Most Victims KNOW their attackers.

Date Rape drugs: GHB and Rohypnol

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Student Safety: Want to host your own workshop?


The majority our student safety workshops for Women at School and Men At School are privately hosted. We always customize content to best suit your needs.

Here’s how we go about it and we try and keep it simple:

  • Give us some dates and times that work for you. Most classes are held on weekday evenings and some on weekends. We are flexible and work around your schedule.
  • We charge $65 per son or daughter and mom attends at no additional fee
  • Additional siblings, $30 each
  • Our minimum is 12 paid for seats (24 including parents)
  • Duration: 3 hours
  • Age: Ideally 14 and older
  • Content and duration customized to your needs
  • Desks or tables are preferable but not necessary
  • We need some space to practice the role playing packages included in these classes. About ten feet in depth and at least 15-20 across is adequate.
  • We bring the laptop and projector and just need a surface to project onto.
  • We carry  insurance to train at any venue. If our company will be paying for space at the venue of your choice this needs to be covered by increasing the minimum number of paid for attendees
  • A handout is included for reference after the training
  • Scholarship If you know of one young man or lady who cannot afford to attend the class you are organizing and you would like him/ her to be there, let us know and we will add him/her and mom to the sign in sheet and be glad to have them join us at no charge. Limit is one parent and child pair per class.
  • Mom (or Dad) why do we want you at the training  as well? -Anytime there is an ongoing dialog regarding information that is common to two or more people there is better retention and a greater probability that strategies discussed in class will actually be implemented. We also teach exercises to improve awareness of our surroundings which are more fun to do with someone who learned them with you rather than alone.

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